Therapy for Women Who Carry the Weight: Burnout, Trauma, and the Mental Load of Holding It All Together
You know what it’s like to hold everything together while feeling like you’re falling apart inside. You’ve seen the warning signs—your gut told you something wasn’t right. You tried to fix it. You spoke up. But no one listened.
Now the stakes are too high to ignore. And everyone is looking at you—the one who always knows, the one who always carries it—to fix it.
But you’re tired of fixing. You don’t want to be the glue anymore.
The Invisible Weight Women Carry
If you’re a wife, a mom, a woman who people lean on—then you already know what the mental load is. You probably don’t even call it that. You just call it life.
It’s you remembering the appointments, noticing your teen’s mood swings before they explode, keeping track of bills, worrying about your marriage, and trying to hold it together at work. It’s noticing the cracks before anyone else admits they’re there.
And you’ve been doing this for so long that exhaustion feels normal.
Except it’s not normal. It’s burnout.
Burnout isn’t just stress. It’s your body and brain saying enough. It’s the sleepless nights, the resentment that creeps in, the anxiety that hums under everything you do. It’s the feeling of being invisible, of being used up, of wondering if anyone would even notice if you stopped carrying all this weight.
When Burnout Becomes Crisis
For many women, the breaking point doesn’t come quietly. It comes when something escalates.
Maybe your teen starts making choices that terrify you—substance use, self-harm, failing school.
Maybe your marriage is unraveling after years of silence and disconnection.
Maybe trauma you’ve carried for decades suddenly bursts through the surface.
You saw it coming. You knew. You begged for change. You tried to fix it.
And now that it’s undeniable, they’re looking at you—the one who warned them—to fix it.
But you can’t. You’ve already tried, and it nearly broke you.
My Own Story of Carrying Too Much
I know this story because I’ve lived it.
I built a group practice with twenty therapists while raising a family of six. From the outside, I looked like I had it together: successful business, big family, all the boxes checked. But inside, I was running on fumes.
I knew when things were off. I knew when people weren’t okay. My gut told me the truth long before others admitted it. And like so many women, I carried it all. I tried to fix it. I tried to make it work.
And I burned out.
I didn’t take breaks. I pushed harder when things got worse. Even in my marriage, when we hit a separation, I doubled down at work instead of facing what I needed. Because that’s what women do when the ground starts to shake—we carry more.
It took me a long time to realize that carrying more doesn’t save you. It drowns you.
That’s why I built the way I work now. Because I know what it’s like to be the wife, the mom, the one who sees it coming and gets ignored until it’s too late.
And I know what it’s like to finally decide: I’m not carrying this alone anymore.
Why Traditional Therapy Didn’t Work for You
I hear this from women all the time: “I’ve done therapy before, and nothing changed.”
Here’s the truth: most therapy focuses on the individual, like you’re living in a bubble. But you don’t live in a bubble. You live in systems—your marriage, your family, your work, your relationships.
If therapy doesn’t address those systems, it ends up putting the responsibility right back on you. Another hour of talking, another week of carrying the load. No wonder you left feeling like nothing shifted.
That’s why I don’t do endless, unstructured “talk therapy.” I use systems therapy and my own STABLE framework to bring structure, clarity, and real change.
Because the last thing you need is another person telling you to “fix it.” You need someone strong enough to stabilize it with you.
The STABLE Way Forward
I built the STABLE framework for women like you—women who carry too much for too long. Here’s what it looks like when we apply it in therapy:
Safety: Finally, a place where you can put it all down without being judged or minimized.
Transparency: We bring the hidden truths into the open. No more carrying secrets alone.
Accountability: Change sticks when everyone owns their part—not just you.
Boundaries: You learn to set limits without guilt, so love doesn’t drain you dry.
Legacy: We shift patterns so your kids don’t repeat the chaos.
Existential Fulfillment: Because survival isn’t enough—you deserve meaning, too.
This isn’t abstract. It’s a clear, structured process that takes you from chaos back to stability.
The Objections You’re Already Thinking
“It’s too expensive.”
Yes, therapy is an investment. $275/session isn’t nothing. But how much is it costing you to keep living this way? The sleepless nights, the marriage strain, the risky teen behavior—they don’t get cheaper with time.
“I’ve already tried therapy, and it didn’t work.”
I hear you. That’s why I don’t do cookie-cutter therapy. My approach is structured, direct, and results-driven. You’ll know what we’re working on, and why.
“I don’t have time.”
You don’t have time not to. Carrying all of this is already stealing your time, your energy, and your peace of mind. Therapy gives you your time back by pulling you out of survival mode.
Why $275/Session is an Investment, Not a Cost
What you’re paying for isn’t just an hour. You’re paying for:
Relief from carrying the emotional labor alone
A structured system that makes sense of the chaos
Privacy and discretion (no insurance, no diagnosis trail following you)
Real change that ripples through your family and your future
This is more than therapy. It’s you buying your life back.
Signs It’s Time to Reach Out
You wake up already exhausted, before the day even starts.
You feel invisible in your own family.
You resent how much you carry, but you feel guilty for resenting it.
You’ve noticed the cracks—and no one listened.
You’re done being the glue.
If this is you, it’s time.
Final Word
You’ve already done enough. You’ve seen the warning signs. You’ve tried to fix it. You’ve carried everyone else. Now it’s time to put some of that weight down.
Therapy with me isn’t about talking in circles. It’s about structure, stability, and finally having someone strong enough to hold this with you.
Request a consultation today—because your stability can’t wait.